Our return visit to Woodloch this past weekend was so amazing, and seeing the kids’ excitement to be back together at their favorite resort was truly heartwarming. Today I’m sharing 4 reasons why Woodloch should be your first post-pandemic destination.
The Luxe life in Lagos
It don’t mean a thing if I ain’t got that bling ✨
Nothing takes an outfit from drab to fab quite like jewelry and accessories. And as we celebrate the re-opening of our world after Covid-19 lockdowns, we can once again have fun with fashion by curating unique looks for social gatherings and returning to the office. I certainly plan on making up for lost time!
Working alongside LAGOS has always been a dream of mine, which is why I am so exceptionally proud to share our new partnership. LAGOS jewelry is the embodiment of superior artistry, unparalleled style and timeless elegance. Internationally recognized for their representation of bold femininity, every piece of LAGOS jewelry is a perfect blend of sophistication and edge. All of the exquisite pieces are highly textured, which is one of the features that differentiates LAGOS jewelry from other brands.
Caviar, the signature design of LAGOS, refers to the luminous beading present on each piece of LAGOS jewelry. Using meticulous technique, highly-skilled artisans work with precision and keen attention to detail as they perform hundreds of steps required to create the signature beaded Caviar detailing on each of the LAGOS pieces. The superior craftsmanship is truly awe-inspiring.
A few months ago I received a smart watch, and while I love the convenience of wrist-wear technology, the flimsy rubber watch band didn’t jive well with the rest of my wardrobe. I knew there had to be a better option and made it my mission to track down a polished and elegant alternative to the unfashionable rubber band.
From the moment I laid eyes on the LAGOS Smart Caviar collection (featuring this stunning 18k rose gold and stainless steel watch bracelet), I’ve been patiently waiting for the perfect moment to share all the details with my fellow fashionistas. Never could I have envisioned a better blend of fashion and practicality. And how exciting that you can now wear your smart watch just as you would wear any piece of jewelry or luxury watch!
I was instantly drawn to the Smart Caviar Rose watch bracelet. The mixing of different metals in the two-tone style is absolutely mesmerizing, and the versatility in easily pairing it with other jewelry makes it a smart investment piece. The LAGOS Smart caviar watch bracelet is truly next-level chic when layered with a stack of bracelets, and is the perfect example of how one piece of jewelry can be a day-to-day staple that effortlessly transitions to evening and red carpet glam.
Not a fan of the two-tone style? The Smart Caviar watch bracelet is also available in stainless steel, sterling silver, ceramic.
Vou Pre – A Luxury Skincare Line Like No Other
Filters are great, but great skin is better. A healthy, glowing complexion lays the foundation for a youthful and radiant appearance. And as a self-professed lover of all things luxury, I pamper my skin with only the most decadent products. Although it may seem more fun to splurge on a new pair of Louboutins, investing time and money into your skincare routine is the only way to naturally slow down the aging process, and even red bottoms can’t do that! Your future self will thank you.
Vou Pre is a female-formulated, skincare line for only the most discerning clientele. Crafted from the finest dermatologist tested ingredients, the Vou Pre line is poised to revolutionize skincare for many different skin types and concerns. Backed by extensive scientific research, the transformative formulas contain some of the most powerful ingredients in the modern skincare industry, like soluble collagen, zeolite, dragon fruit extract, and cannabis sativa oil (just to name a few).
Although I love to call New York City home, the arctic winter temperatures in the concrete jungle wreak havoc on my skin. The Vou Pre Aqua Collection is a savior for my dry and flaky complexion that is so desperately in need of some TLC. A comprehensive skin care regime formulated for dry skin, the Vou Pre Aqua Collection contains everything you need for a multi-sensory, spa-like experience in the comfort of your own home. The Vou Pre Aqua Collection contains the items below and VouPre suggests using them in the following order:
1. Microneedle Roller
2. Aqua Melting Mask
3. Mask Application Brush
4. Aqua Hydration Serum
5. Aqua Nano Cream
At the very beginning of the pamper session is perhaps the most important step of all – prepping the skin with the .3mm micro needle roller (also referred to as a dermal roller).
For those of you not familiar with microneedling, it’s a minimally-invasive treatment during which tiny needles puncture the skin to create micro-injuries, which rejuvenate your skin by stimulating collagen and elastin production. Having previously received microneedling treatments only in a spa-like setting, I was initially hesitant to use the tool on myself without any formal training. But with modern advancements in technology, at-home microneedling treatments with a dermal roller are safe and easy to use at home. The Vou Pre dermal roller resembles a miniature paint roller covered with tiny needles and it’s not much bigger than a shaving razor. I found the device to be extremely user-friendly and relatively painless, and when used consistently, the dermal roller has a myriad of benefits that make it a no-brainer. The benefits of microneedling in general include the following:
- Reduces fine lines and wrinkles
- Improves and corrects hyperpigmentation, skin discoloration, and other skin irregularities
- Reduces large pores
- Improves scarring caused by acne or other skin injuries
- Tightens skin
- Increases product absorption up to 90%
Vou Pre recommends starting with the Dermal Roller once a week before bedtime, ultimately working towards using it 2-3 times per week. I’ve seemlessly incorporated the dermal roller into my routine and learned first-hand that some of the benefits are instantly noticeable – right after I use the dermal roller I can immediately see that my skin is better able to absorb the products that follow in the collection. And my skin is noticeably softer and more supple.
The Aqua Melting Mask differs from most other masks I’m accustomed to, in that it’s meant to be left on the skin rather than rinsed off. Using the mask application brush, you generously apply to all areas of the face and let it sit for 10 minutes before massaging it into the skin. Now that I’ve been using it for a few weeks, I’ve grown quite fond of allowing the mask to fully absorb into the skin (without rinsing) and my face is noticeably softer after using the mask. And did I mention how amazing it smells?
The Aqua Ultra Hydration Serum is considerably thicker than serums I’ve used in the past, but it’s hydrating effects are indisputable. With a convenient dropper for easy application, the VouPre serum glides on smoothly and left no greasy residue.
The Aqua Nano Cream is the last step in the Vou Pre Aqua Collection and rich enough to lock in just the right amount of moisture. It’s silky in texture, spreads easily, and doesn’t leave any greasy residue on the skin. And its very subtle fragrance is a refreshing departure from some of the heavily perfumed creams on the market. When used concurrently with the Aqua Melting Mask and Ultra Hydration Serum, the Aqua Nano Cream will effectively restore hydration to even the driest skin.
In addition to the hydrating products in the Aqua Collection, I’ve also been using the Vou Pre Radiance Facial Cleanser and Vita C Serum, both of which have become staples in my daily skincare regimen.
In the past I had always relied on facial wipes to remove my makeup, but was looking for an alternative in the interest of sustainability, as wipes are some of the most wasteful products in the world. I was thrilled to discover just how quickly and efficiently the Vou Pre Radiance Facial Cleanser works to remove the makeup and grime accumulated during my hectic days pounding the pavement in NYC.
The Vou Pre Vita C is a nutrient-rich serum formulated to both balance uneven skin tone and restore a healthy, glowing complexion. I love applying the Vita C serum before makeup in the morning, which keeps my skin feeling nourished all day long.
Filters don’t follow you around in real life and taking care is your skin is more important than covering it up. Aging is a fact of life, but looking your age is not. The Vou Pre skincare line is an excellent approach to aging gracefully and slowing down the appearance of fine lines and wrinkles. If you haven’t tried the Vou Pre products, what are you waiting for?
Woodloch Resort – A Scenic Suburban Oasis Only 90 Miles From NYC
As busy parents raising kids in New York City, it’s easy to get caught up in the hustle and bustle of our every day lives. With jam-packed calendars and time spent preoccupied with devices, we often feel stretched in many different directions and find ourselves struggling for time to catch-up with our own kids. Last weekend we departed the concrete jungle and drove less than 100 miles to Woodloch Resort in Pennsylvania’s Pocono Mountains in search of respite from the chaos of our everyday lives.
A tranquil departure from the urban grind, Woodloch is an all-inclusive resort built around a picturesque mountain lake setting. Their dedication to providing the perfect family-focused getaway was immediately apparent and we were so touched at the warm welcome we received by staff throughout the resort. You see, at Woodloch, the emphasis is placed on the importance of “togethering” and old-fashioned family values. Their heartwarming hospitality coupled with the serene natural beauty of the resort make for the perfect setting to relax, reboot, and make memories that will last a lifetime.
There is no shortage of activities at the exceptional Poconos resort, even during the most inclement weather. Even though it was cold and rainy during our stay, we were so well entertained that it now boggles my mind to think of all we accomplished in only a 2-day visit. I attribute this partially to the attentive staff and their enthusiasm in helping us choose the best activities for our family and always making sure we knew of everything going on throughout the resort. Although we had marathon days of consecutive activities at Woodloch, we still only tackled a fraction of their endless activities. Below are some of the highlights from our visit.
Hit and run has never been so much fun! We enjoyed whirling around and bumping into each other so much that we even went back for another battle of the bumpers the following day. Evan was barely tall enough to ride, but Chloe has to sit this one out. For toddlers who aren’t tall enough to ride, there are vehicles in an adjoining area that will keep them happy and entertained.
Being outside in the crisp mountain air is truly invigorating, especially for us city dwellers. And snow tubing is an exhilarating family-friendly activity for families. Although I was terrified to try it, I took the plunge and careened down the snow-covered hill with ease again and again.
Pony Rides & Petting Zoo
No child’s visit to Woodloch is complete without visiting the petting zoo and taking a ride on a real pony. Fun for kids of all ages, the petting zoo is the perfect opportunity to interact with farm animals like sheep and baby goats. Both Chloe and Evan took multiple turns riding the ponies and loved stopping to wave to the camera.
The outdoor go-carts at Woodloch are a recipe for fast-paced family fun. As we zoomed around the track, Evan kept asking for me to go faster, and I did my best to humor his competitive spirit and need for speed. We’re already looking forward to returning in the Spring to re-live this memorable racing experience.
Chloe and Evan have always loved to bowl, which is why we were so thrilled to discover this bowling alley at Woodloch. We didn’t keep score and the kids often skipped our turns, but we loved watching them figure out the nuances of the game.
We stopped by the arcade at Woodloch multiple times throughout our stay, where we went head-to-head in frequent air hockey tournaments and played every new and old-school video games imaginable.
We were so pleasantly surprised by the multitude of characters walking around the grounds at Woodloch. It was such a treat for the kids to have a meet and greet with all their favorites! Not pictured below is Gilligan from the 1960’s television show, who was unmistakable in his red collared shirt and white bucket hat.
Every meal at Woodloch is 5-star dining experience with multiple courses. Luckily my pants had some stretch to accommodate the thousands of calories we consumed each day. Just take a look at this raw bar!
Our spacious suite at Woodloch was the perfect setting to unwind after a busy day of endless activities. Fully stocked with all the best bath/shower products and immaculately clean, we felt right at home nestled in our cozy suite overlooking the pristine lake.
The best things in life are the people we love, the places we’ve been and the memories we’ve made along the way. Thank you, Woodloch, for providing the perfect destination for us to unplug, reconnect and savor our moments together. While taking advantage of the awe-inspiring amenities at your lakeside resort, we created life-long memories that I will cherish forever. Kids won’t remember that fancy game or toys we buy them, but they’ll remember the special times we spent with them.
For more details about Woodloch, click here to view my friend Stella’s review. We we lucky enough to visit Woodloch on the very same weekend!
Cozy Up With Walmart’s Hottest Toys This Fall
As summer comes to a close and the first brisk gusts of wind swirl through the towering New York City skyscrapers, we pull out our coziest flannel pajamas from storage and huddle under our fleece throw blankets. We guzzle down warm apple cider and eat oven-baked cookies, delighting in the splendor of the upcoming holiday season. At this time of year, New York City kids start spending more time indoors as the temperatures outside continue to plummet. And as their afternoons at the playground begin to dwindle, parents scramble to find this season’s best toys in desperate attempts to keep their children entertained within the confines of their small NYC apartments. But with a market super saturated with toys and children’s items, it can be overwhelming to sift through all the options. I’m so thrilled to have partnered with Walmart, America’s Best Toy Shop, to share with you this Fall’s newest and most highly coveted toys.
Play-Doh Kitchen Creations Popcorn Party Play Food Set with 6 Non-Toxic Play-Doh Cans
I’ve never seen more excitement in Evan’s eyes than when I presented him with this Play-Doh Popcorn Play Set. He loved twisting the crank, watching the “popcorn” fall into the basket below, and utilizing his imagination to mold Play-Doh Oreos and chocolate candies. Like most Kindergartener’s, he loves the feeling of Play-Doh between his fingers and was so enthusiastic about creating these make-believe tasty morsels.
When frigid temperatures prohibit trips to the playground, why not bring the playground to your kids?! Both Evan and Chloe loved using the figurines in the PLAYMOBIL Park Playground to re-enact their favorite playground activities, even including going down the slide head first. It can be difficult to find toys that interest both a 3-year-old and 5-year-old, but this toy kept them both engaged and encouraged them to play alongside each other.
Some of my other favorites at Walmart are as follows:
VTech Myla the Magical Unicorn Electronic Pet
Because what little girls these days are not fascinated with unicorns? Children can dip Myla’s magic brush into the butterfly palette to choose a color and then use it to paint her eyes, wings and horn a variety of colors. This is perfect for children who are obsessed with Mommy’s makeup and gives them the opportunity to practice mixing colors. I just added this Myla the Magical Unicorn to Chloe’s wish list and you should too!
I love toys that promote learning, which is why I was initially drawn to this toy. As kids guide the animals up the ramp two by two and onto the floating vessel, it becomes the perfect opportunity to introduce them to the beautiful biblical story behind the toy. And get this – the PLAYMOBIL Noah’s Ark actually floats so it can even be used during bath time!
LEGO Friends Dolphins Rescue Mission 41378 Building Kit with Submarine
I also love toys that bring awareness to global issues and send positive messages to our youth. When playing with the LEGO Friends Dolphin Rescue Mission Building Kit with Submarine, children will embark on a mission to rescue a trapped dolphin and find the hidden treasure throughout their underwater adventure! I just love how this toy teaches our children about the importance of caring for animals.
Little Tikes 2-in-1 Food Truck Play Kitchen with 20+ Accessories
In a city where food trucks line the avenues, the Little Tikes Food Truck Play Kitchen encourages role-playing and gives children hands-on experience serving up the tastiest treats. I love that it fosters interactive play and encourages children to play together. Even with their relatively short attentions spans, I can easily see this providing hours of entertainment for my kids this Fall.
LINCOLN LOGS Classic Farmhouse
Never has another toy made me feel so nostalgic about my own childhood than the Lincoln Logs Classic Farmhouse. This toy encourages kids to think outside the box to create structures of all shapes and sizes and even introduces the concepts of spatial awareness and problem solving. I’m always amazed at how focused my children suddenly become when they’re building and creating!
LEGO Architecture Empire State Building 21046 Model Skyscraper Building Kit
My children are endlessly fascinated by the Empire State Building and other iconic landmarks of NYC that they see so frequently while growing up in this heaping metropolis. The prospect of constructing the LEGO Architecture Empire State Building Kit may seem overwhelming at first, but reinforces the importance of patience and working together to finish a task. Children will feel so proud when it’s complete!
Here’s the Scoop: Evan’s Fro-yo-licious Birthday Celebration
The hours may be long, but the days are most definitely short. I can hardly believe that my sweet boy is turning FIVE! To celebrate Evan’s milestone birthday, it was only fitting that we throw him a party that would be sweet, sugar-coated and oh-so-sticky, just like him. For as long as I can remember, we’ve been frequenting our favorite neighborhood dessert destination, 16 Handles, where we love watching both Evan and Chloe revel in the most decadent sweet treats. It was a no-brainer that this was the perfect venue to host a birthday party that would be most memorable and personally meaningful for him.
There’s something about frozen yogurt that bridges the gap between childhood and adulthood. It’s a delicious indulgence that neither young nor old can resist. So I knew that both Evan’s friends and their parents would be elated to attend his sweet celebration at 16 Handles, where they boast 16 fro-yo flavors and a toppings bar that knows no bounds. Nothing makes me feel like a kid again quite like visiting my favorite fro-yo destination!
The 16 Handles location on 64th St. And 1st Avenue proved to be the perfect space to accommodate our party. The oversized party rooms facilitated easy transitions from one activity to the next and kept all of our guests feeling comfortable. A long table in their party room comfortably sat 20+ kids with plenty of standing room for adults. And adjacent to that is another area where we set up a shark themed table complete with food, drinks, party favors and other party paraphernalia.
When the entertainer arrived we shuffled the kids into yet another room lined with benches, which is the ideal space for watching any kind of entertainment.
Making birthday parties for my kids has always been a source of anxiety for me, but the staff at 16 Handles succeeded in making Evan’s birthday party a stress-free experience. They were so incredibly helpful to ensure that the party ran smoothly and executed all of the details with ease. It was clear that their staff members are very experienced in hosting special events and private parties. They maintained composure and organization even in the presence of 20+ children with balloon swords on sugar-highs.
It filled us with so much joy to watch Evan and his pals devour more fro-yo flavor and topping combinations than you can ever possibly imagine. Cookie dough pieces, cheesecake bites, and rainbow cookies, oh my! A veritable heaven for those with even the most discerning sweet tooth. 16 Handles even offers sugar-free fro-yo and fresh fruit toppings for those who’d rather not have sugar coursing through their veins.
As the party winded down, I couldn’t help but marvel at how my baby boy has blossomed into the sweetest, most nurturing soul I have ever known. Being Evan’s mommy (and Chloe’s too!) continues to be the greatest privilege in my life. Thank you, 16 Handles for making this birthday a sweet celebration we will all remember.
With locations all over New York City and the New York metropolitan area, 16 Handles is the perfect venue for your child’s next birthday party. Click here to start planning your own!
10 Things Nobody Tells You About Losing Your Mother
After my mother’s sudden passing two years ago on this date, I’ve haphazardly stumbled my way through the grieving process, having spent much of the past two years adrift in the wreckage of unfathomable heartache and a sea of designer shopping bags. But despite the mood-boosting qualities of impulse purchases, my new wardrobe additions have failed to piece back together the shards of my own shattered identity. As I’ve struggled to find meaning in a world that seems predictably unpredictable and utterly cruel at times, I’ve come to the conclusion that what has emerged is the stark reality of ineffable loss and the endowment of a profound wisdom understood too early. Acutely aware that the 2nd anniversary of her death has been quickly approaching, I’ve spent countless hours reflecting on all I’ve ascertained about life and my mother’s premature death and today I’m sharing ten internal revelations nobody ever tells you about losing your mother.
- Her passing will become a defining moment in your life. You will start to organize the memories of your life into two very distinct repositories of experience as if plotted chronologically on a timeline – when your mother was alive and after her death. In fact, as the calendar pages flutter in the breeze, a decreasing segment of my closet is now mom-approved.
- You will search for ways to make full the void before realizing that such a gaping injury to your heart is ultimately irreparable. Even the Bergdorf’s after-Christmas sale will fail to rehabilitate your aching spirit as you struggle to adjust to a life that feels forever incomplete.
- Life is now fractured through a prism, dampening light as never before. That fierce pair of Louboutin boots at Barney’s you were eyeing suddenly just seem like a superfluous irrelevance. You will make that purchase another day.
- The person you were before she died is forever altered by this cataclysmic event; you will morph into a more vulnerable iteration of yourself, emerging with a deeper appreciation of life and enhanced compassion for others. This reservoir of tenderness for others will translate into a deeper empathy for others and you are poised to become a better mother, spouse, friend and neighbor.
- You will emerge inherently mindful of life’s complexity, and forever feel more grown-up. When my mother, keeper of my childhood memories, passed away, I was recklessly catapulted over an invisible barrier to a requisite maturity. I was just 35 at the time. Although a mother myself, the child in me was inextricably tethered to my mother. In her absence, I often find myself foraging for her spot-on guidance, wisdom and unfiltered critiques of my wardrobe choices I so desperately still need.
- You will begin to contemplate the transient nature of all living things and develop a vivid, visceral knowledge of your own fleeting mortality. You will examine and parse out what critically matters and re-formulate your core values. You will become less willing to put up with people who waste your time. And you will learn how to draw hard lines, unapologetically say no, and engage in guilt-free pampering sessions.
- Sadness will wash over you at the most unexpected and inconvenient times. Discrete circumstances can cause you to sense your mother’s absence more acutely, such as when your child reaches a new milestone or you stumble upon a pair of Manolo’s at Off Fifth and experience the dire urge to share it with her. During such vulnerable moments, the wound is re-opened and triggers what may best be described as “mommy-missing feelings.”
- You will find solace in doing the things she loved doing. My mother was an excellent cook. After she passed away I discovered her hand-written recipes tucked in a drawer, a proverbial cheat sheet to create her signature delicacies. With this revelation I’ve since been able to celebrate her life by cooking the recipes so sweetly reminiscent of my childhood. As the aromas that I so deeply miss waft through my kitchen, I’m comforted by my mother’s presence.
- You will come to understand that it’s not solely the relationship you had with your mother that you grieve, but also the relationship you could be having now. In motherhood, when the ambiance may fluctuate between peace and pandemonium instantaneously, my mother was my pillar of strength. I long for the powerfully soothing tone of her voice assuring me that I’m not alone in the world.
- You will learn that love is more potent than death. My relationship with my mother is one which transcends the limitations of the physical realm. It will endure in perpetuity. Her essence impacts virtually every decision I make and the principals and morality she so deeply ingrained in me escort me through each new challenge I now face without her. I detect glimpses of her whenever I peer into the mirror. And by living my life in a manner I know would make her most proud, she will continue to live on through me always.
Top 7 Parental Pet Peeves
Top 7 Parental Pet Peeves
The Never-ending Bedtime Routine
There was a time when I’d tuck my children into bed and whisper sweet nothings like, “I love you more than all the stars in the sky” or “I love you all the way to the moon”. We’d kiss, hug, give each other fist bumps and then they would peacefully drift off to sleep. I really do remember this happening. . . maybe twice. Let’s be honest – more often than not, bedtime consists of negotiating with my tiny, demanding CEOs for different books, sips of water, and last-minute trips the bathroom. This is a seemingly never-ending sequence of events, and once the light turns off and the door gets closed, all hell breaks loose in their secluded mischief chamber. Through their deafening cackling, I can hear them using their mattresses as trampolines as they playfully hurl stuffed animals at each other. The years may be short, but somehow bedtime is 576,923 days long.
Masterful Mess Makers
Whether they’re excitedly rummaging through my makeup drawer or converting the walls of our home to crayon-based mural drawings, only one thing is certain – my toddlers love exploring the world one mess at a time. My very own apprentice demolition crew, I can always count on them for wrecking any semblance of order in our home. Like pint-sized dump trucks, they load up purses and other containers with junk from their play area and haul it to other rooms, where it will be dumped, dismantled and ultimately abandoned. The cumulative effect of this behavior results in the transition of our orderly apartment into a treacherous Lego minefield. And speaking of messes, does anyone else spend an inordinate amount of time daily touching things in your home and wondering why they’re sticky?
Much like the uncertain outcome when leading a horse to water, there is never any guarantee that my children, who have willingly arrived at the dinner table, will actually consume the food they’ve been given. Mealtime wouldn’t be complete without at least one of my kids refusing to eat what’s been served, even if it’s exactly what they asked me to cook for them. Sometimes it even seems like it might just be easier to cut out the middle man, throw away an entire plate of food and squirt ketchup all over the floor. With a promising future in quality control, my toddlers will examine their food, searching for any inconsistencies in color, texture, or shape before protesting anything that fails to resemble the usual mealtime offerings. I wish I was as brave as my 2-year old who proclaims her tummy is too full to eat her dinner, but then asks me for a snack five minutes later.
Walking Petri Dishes
The careless touching of contaminated surfaces is behavior I will never comprehend. Despite my excessive warnings not to touch germy surfaces, my toddlers seemingly can’t resist dangerous play dates with pathogens. A ride on the subway isn’t complete without caressing every square inch of the train car and tracing shapes with their fingers on the murky brown window panels. What better opportunity to taste each finger than after pressing the elevator button inside the Times Square subway station? These unsanitary habits make me cringe, and once the germs enter our home it’s only a matter of time before we find ourselves battling a household epidemic. Actually, spending all day recuperating in bed doesn’t sound so bad, Oh wait, I’m a mom! Scratch that idea.
Just once, I’d like to wake up with the same renewed sense of optimism as my 4-year old who just asked me for the 20th day in a row if he can have M&M’s for breakfast. I now realize that all of the things my sweet babies were trying to tell me when they were infants were probably just demands for more snacks and toys. When my 2-year old optimistically asks to bring her tablet into her crib at nap time, she seems genuinely bewildered as I tell her “no” for the 427th time.
Declarations of Independence
Shortly after they begin walking and talking, toddlers develop a ferocious determination to do things on their own. “No, let me! Let me!” is a phrase I’ve heard at least 10 times even before my kids get out the door in the morning. Toddlers seem to have a warped sense of reality when it comes to their physical limitations and often don’t have the necessary skill set to complete more difficult tasks without help (although offers to help are usually met with resistance). For instance, my 2-year old will often demand to change her own diaper even though clearly this is a recipe for disaster. Only after a 5 minute standoff (and maybe bribing her with my phone) does she relinquish diaper changing duties to me. And explaining to my 4-year old why I cannot allow him to drive our car feels like bargaining with a tiny dictator. But I have to be flexible. When he insists on pouring himself a cup of milk from the 1-gallon jug, I take a step back and feign a smile as my whole life flashes before my eyes.
The Backhanded Snot Wipe
Despite frequent hand washing and our best efforts to sanitize everything that comes through our door, it always seems like we are fighting a losing battle against an endless onslaught of runny noses and low-grade fevers. No need to panic, however (or buy tissues, for that matter), as most toddlers have mastered the haphazard movement of snot across their faces by utilizing the back of their perfectly dimpled hands. This maneuver defies all logic and often leads to bothersome irritation of toddlers’ sensitive skin. That glistening coat of dried mucus often masks cheeks that are chafed, crusty, and in dire need of some TLC.
Black Friday Cheat Sheet
Black Friday: the day when people trample others for deep discounts mere hours after giving thanks for everything they already have. And for those of you itching to deplete your bank accounts even before you consume your colossal plate of food, you’re in luck, as Black Friday sales no longer begin on Friday, but rather on Thanksgiving or even before!! Black Friday is an enigma in the truest form. In a real life manifestation of The Hunger Games, people emerge from their turkey-induced comas and all common decency is abandoned as they compete for price-slashed luxury goods. Unless armed with helmets and shoulder pads, battling hoards of overzealous retailers is a dangerous sport not meant for the faint of heart.
The first and most critical rule for Black Friday shopping – STAY HOME. There, I said it. With few exceptions, shoppers extraordinaire can access the same deals online as in stores. This year, stay in your pajamas, grab some spiced cider, and get those fingers ready to furiously type in your credit card numbers.
Below is my ultimate Black Friday Cheat sheet – You’re welcome!
& Other Stories is offering 20% off everything through 11/24.
7 For All Mankind is offering 40% off sitewide through 11/27.
Alternative Apparel is offering 30% off sitewide through 11/25. Use code THANKS30.
Aritzia is offering 50% off select fall/winter styles through 11/26.
ARO is offering 30% off sitewide with code THANKYOU from 11/22 to 11/26.
ASOS will give you 20% off with code HELLO20 and free shipping worldwide.
Ban.do is offering 30% off sitewide with code THIRTYOFF through 11/27.
Barnes & Noble has a bunch of deals going on: Get 50% off the best young adult books of 2018, toys and games for BOGO 50% off, and 50% off Moleskine items, plus more all through 11/25.
Baublebar is offering 30% off through 11/24.
Benefit Cosmetics is offering 25% off everything plus free shipping with code BENEBINGE through 11/24.
Betsey Johnson is offering 35% off sitewide through 11/25.
Blank NYC will give you 30% off sidewide with code BLACKFRIDAY from 11/23-11/25.
Bloomingdales is offering 15% off $100+, 20% off $250+, or 25% off $400+ on items labeled “buy more save more” through 11/24.
Boohoo will give you 60% off fashion and accessories with free returns!
Charlotte Russe is offering Select Sweaters for $15 through 11/22 at 3am EST. And get Long Denim, Boxed Shoes, and Outerwear items for $20 from now through 11/25 at 3am EST.
Chinese Laundry is offering 30% off sitewide excluding best seller items — use code HOLIDAY.
Club Monaco has the following offer: Spend to Get 25% off $150 30% off $250 35% off $400 on purchase with code: CMBLACKFRIDAY18. Valid 11/21-11/24.
Coach is offering 50% off select bestselling handbags starting today and lasting until they’re sold out! And get 30% off select styles with promo code THANKS18 through 11/27.
Cole Haan is offering 50% off select boots, bags, and outerwear plus 30% off everything else through 11/24.
Converse is offering 20% off clearance styles through 11/22.
Dear Frances is offering 25% off sitewide through 11/27 with code BF25.
DKNY is offering 30% off your purchase with code YESPLEASE through 11/28.
Dormify will give you 25% off with code BLACKFRIDAY2018 through 11/25.
Dorothy Perkins is offering up to 50% off select lines through 11/22.
Draper James is offering 25% off sitewide with code GATHERROUND through 11/26.
e.l.f. Cosmetics has the following offer: Get a $25 value holiday gift when you spend $25 from 11/19 to 11/26 on elfcosmetics.com.
Eloquii is offering 50% off a $75+ purchase with code EARLY.
Etsy is having a Cyber Sales Event with items for 10-60% off through 11/26! Click here to visit the sale.
Express is offering 50% off absolutely everything through 11/24 at 2:59am ET.
Fashion Nova is offering 25% off select styles!
Frances Valentine is offering 30% off orders of $200 or more with code FVGIFTS30; Excludes Kate bags and preorder items.
Gap has the following offer: Black Friday! 50% off Everything! No exclusions! Use code BLKFRIDAY at gap.com. Restrictions apply. Ends 11/24. And get an extra 10% off everything with code TREAT through 11/24.
Garage is offering 40% off all orders from now through 11/26 at 7am EST!
Genuine People is offering 30% off sitewide through 11/26 with code TAKE30.
Giorgio Armani Beauty has the following offer going on: Enjoy 20% off all Giorgio Armani Beauty products. Receive complimentary shipping when you spend $75+. Receive a complimentary full sized lipstick with any order of $125+. In addition, receive a makeup palette with any order of $200+. Use Code ARMANI20. Valid 11/18-11/28.
Gorjana has the following offer: From November 22-24, spend $100 and get $20 off; spend $150 and get $50 off; spend $250 and get $100 off.
J.Crew is offering 40% off select styles through 11/22 with code TOGETHER.
Keds is offering 30% off full priced items and 20% off sale items through 11/27.
Kurt Lyle is offering 25% off sitewide with code ART25.
Lands’ End is offering 50% off full price styles plus free shipping on $50+.
L.K. Bennett is offering 30% off $250+ with code HAPPY30.
Lancome is offering 20% off and free shipping on any order through 11/27! Use code FRIENDS.
Levi’s is offering 40% off all items plus special daily offers through 11/26.
LOFT is offering 50% off your purchase with code THANKS starting at 5pm and lasting until 11/22 at 11:59pm.
Lord & Taylor is offering an extra $25 off your purchase of $200+ with code BONUSthrough 11/25. And they have an extra 40% off newly reduced prices through 11/25.
Lulu’s is offering 25% off sitewide plus free US shipping — use code BF25 through 11/24.
Lululemon is having a big sale with markdowns starting at just $9!
Luv AJ is offering 40% off sitewide for multiple days with code BLACKFRIDAY.
Macy’s is offering 20% off Black Friday Sale items and free shipping on $49 with code BLKFRI through 11/24. Their deals include 40% off Anastasia Glow Kits (through 11/28), 5 pairs of womens boots for $100 (through 11/24), 60% off petite coats (through 11/24), and the UD Naked Smokey Eyeshadow Palette for $25 (through 11/26)!
Maje is offering up to 30% off plus an additional 25% off through 11/25.
Marc Jacobs Beauty is launching an exclusive Black Friday collection! Also, get a Mini Velvet Noir, mini Highliner in Blacquer, and mini Lip Crème in Slow Burn + makeup pochette with orders over $75 through 11/24.
Mavi Jeans is offering 30% off site-wide through 11/26.
M. Gemi is offering 25% off your entire order through 11/26.
Modcloth will give you 30% off $100, 40% off $200, and more! Plus there are tons of items on sale across the site. All valid through 11/25.
Nasty Gal is offering 60% off sitewide!
Net-A-Porter is offering up to 50% off sitewide all week.
Nicole Miller is offering 25% off site-wide from 11/23-11/25.
Nike is offering 20% off select styles with code THANKS, plus free shipping!
Nordstrom is offering up to 60% off select items through 11/26!
Nordstrom Rack is launching major new deals every single day this week with prices up to 70% off so check the site daily to save!
Old Navy is offering 50% off your entire purchase through 11/23.
Opening Ceremony is offering an additional 20% off sale items with code OCBLACK20 from 11/23-11/25.
Poppy Lissiman is offering 25% off site-wide (excluding pre-order items) from 11/23-11/26 with code BFCM.
Prive’ Revaux is offering 25% off all orders of $50+ with code Prive18 through 11/26.
Puma is offering 30% off select styles with code PUMAFRIDAY through 11/25.
Rag & Bone is offering 25% off sitewide plus free shipping through 11/26.
Reformation is offering 30% off sitewide through 11/26.
Saks Fifth Avenue is offering up to $200 off your purchase with code SAVENOW on 11/21 only! They’re also offering up to $150 off a Women’s Denim purchase with code DENIM2018 through 11/25. They also have the following deal: Black Friday Exclusive! Earn a $75 Gift Card with your $150 purchase. Use code THANKFUL. Valid 11/23-11/24.
Saks Off Fifth is offering 50% off all coats, men’s and women’s cashmere, boots, designer jeans, hats, and gloves and scarves, all through 11/26. Designer sunglasses buy 1, get 1 50% off; 50% off Women’s boots; 50% off cold weather accessories including hats, gloves & scarves, all through 11/26.
Sam Edelman is offering 30% off select styles online and in stores with code SAMSGIVING2018.
Sandro is offering up to 30% off plus an additional 25% off from 11/22-11/25.
Scotch & Soda is offering an additional 25% off sale merchandise through 11/24.
Sephora has select items for 50% off with different items on sale each day until 11/26.
Shopbop is offering 25% off full-price items and 75% off sale items from now through 11/25 — use code MORE18.
Splendid is offering 30% off sitewide through 11/25.
Stila has the following offer: 30% OFF Site-Wide and Free Shipping No Minimum starting Thanksgiving Day thru 11/24! Use Code: 30BFSALE at checkout.
Sweaty Betty is offering 30% off site-wide from 11/22-11/26.
The Outnet is offering up to 85% off plus additional discounts with code BLACKFRIDAYon 11/23.
Toms is offering 30% off everything, and free shipping when you spend $60, all through 11/27.
Topshop is offering up to 50% off select items from now through 11/26 plus free shipping on all orders!
Torrid is offering 40% off full price and 50% off clearance for Torrid Insider credit card holders — use code SHOPFIRST.
Under Armour is offering 30% off all fleece and select shoes, plus free shipping!
Urban Outfitters is offering buy one, get one 50% off entire site through 11/23.
Vera Bradley is offering 30% off your entire purchase including already reduced items through 11/27. They also have their Exclusive Bright Tote for $44 through 11/27. And all items ship for free!
Walgreens is offering an extra $10 off $60 with code CELEBRATE10 through 11/21. Also, fragrance, cosmetics and personal care gift sets are BOGO 50% off through 11/24.
Fall Fashion That’s Off The Chains
Made popular by Versace’s opulent designs, the chain print motif remains one of the most universally recognized clothing patterns. From haute couture to ready-to-wear, we’ve seen this trend blazing down the runways of Versace for decades. These designs are equally feminine and edgy, often incorporating Medusa heads and gold chains, all at a price unattainable for most. But with the evolution of fast fashion and online commerce, this trend that oozes sophisticated glamour is finally accessible for budget-conscious shoppers. The elaborate print has made its revival and brands like Zara, Asos and Topshop are among those designing garments that make an equally bold fashion statement without the sky-high price tag. Scroll down to see some of my favorites at all different price points! Treat yo’self.
Terrible Two’s, Threenagers and Fournados: A Parents’ Guide to Taming Temper Tantrums
We’ve all been there – peacefully meandering through the aisles of your neighborhood food market while pushing a seemingly jubilant toddler in the stroller. As he proudly identifies a myriad of items on the shelves, you think how fortunate you are to have such precocious and blissful offspring. Suddenly, you turn the corner and find yourself entering the dreaded grocery aisle of doom. Kit Kats, Reese’s Pieces, jelly beans, oh my! You desperately attempt to swerve off the path, but it’s too late – he’s already recognized the wrappers prominently gleaming. He begins bucking wildly and lunging at the shelves nearby, determined to escape from the confines of the stroller and dislodge a package of M&M’s from a shelf. The delightful cherub you were amorously admiring 30 seconds ago has morphed into a demon-child, threatening a campaign of terror if not immediately satiated with chocolate. A daunting wave of panic washes over you and as the first bead of sweat trickles down your face, you may experience an overwhelming impulsion to abandon both your shopping cart and your boss baby. But this isn’t the first exhausting, melodramatic temper tantrum, and certainly won’t be the last. Parenting is much like navigating through an emotional minefield with unforeseen hazards at every juncture. And for reasons yet to be revealed to mankind, children prefer to stage such outbursts in public forums, resulting in the maximum destruction of your sanity. However, armed with patience, resilience and an aresenal of my tried-and-tested techniques elaborated below, it is possible to tame the beast and survive even the most shameful moments of public humiliation with your tantrumming toddler.
Hug It Out: Because giving your toddler a spontaneous crash course in anger-management just isn’t feasible during a mega tantrum, I often trust my most primal instinct, which tells to cradle my children in their moments of distress. It’s important, however, to take the proper precautions when attempting this maneuver by promptly removing your child’s shoes or any objects that could potentially become flying projectiles. The next best thing to a size 3T straitjacket, a tight embrace effectively restricts flailing limbs and helps restore the hormonal balance inside an impassioned child’s body. The deep pressure of a tight hug can have an immediate calming effect and can be used to diffuse even the most agitated toddler. Full disclosure – forcibly hugging a child in mid-tantrum can also result in an exacerbation of said tantrum into fiendish demonic possession, as tactile-defensive children may turn hysterical when their movements are thwarted.
Ignore It: Although it’s difficult to ignore your child’s deliberate attempts to sabotage your day and wreak havoc on your eardrums, it’s also inconceivable to fit a 28-minute tantrum into your hectic daily schedule. Ain’t nobody got time for that! In my personal experience, tantrums most commonly occur at moments a child is reminded that he is not the epicenter of the universe, like when you give him a waffle for breakfast despite his demands for ice cream with chocolate syrup (in the green bowl, not the blue one). In my personal experience, the resulting tantrum provides an excellent opportunity for moms to file their nails or indulge in at-home spa treatments while Junior exercises his self-soothing techniques. If you struggle with pervasive mommy guilt, remind yourself that this experience is laying the groundwork for your child’s healthy acceptance of limits, boundaries, and the development of frustration tolerance. If tantrums are consistently met with apathy, a child will learn that throwing a tantrum will fail to produce the desired outcome. And preventing these tantrums from reoccurring should always be your ultimate goal because hell hath no fury like a toddler who wanted a green sippy cup instead of a blue one.
Embrace the Tantrum: Tired of fighting an uphill battle? Try this novel approach. Let the tantrum wash over you and soak up all of its satanic glory. Kick back and let it run its course while you watch from the safety of the sidelines in shock and awe. As your child thrashes uncontrollably on the floor, silently applaud him on his agility and vocal range. He’s going to sleep well tonight. As you see the tantrum de-escalating, calmly ask him if he’s done yet, at which point he will most likely stand up and agree, having already forgotten about the irrational reasons for his volatile public outburst. At this point, indulge your child with affection and praise him for taking control of his emotions and conquering his existential hissy fit like a champ.
Match the Intensity: Parenting toddlers is a real-life depiction of the whack-a-mole carnival game. Igniting metaphorical fires wherever they go, my toddlers are mischievous, fearless, and strong-willed. As soon as I extinguish one flame, another one appears while the last one is still smoldering. Sometimes the inherent frustration of parenting causes us (myself included) to be dismissive of our children, especially when they unabashedly launch into inconvenient torrents of rage for reasons which seem preposterous to us. But while we may not think dropping a cookie on the street warrants a 15 minute temper tantrum, we must be careful not to trivialize our children’s feelings. “I know, you were so excited to eat it and now it’s gone. It’s OK, blah blah blah…” Most parents would suggest keeping calm and whispering words of understanding and encouragement to your child, but validating your child’s emotions alone isn’t always a silver bullet. In order to show your children that you truly comprehend their feelings, sometimes you need to match their intensity. While huffing and puffing and arms flailing, “You’re UPSET! You wanted to eat the cookie, but then you dropped it and I won’t allow you to eat it off the dirty street! IT’S TERRIBLE! That delicious cookie just lying in the street! You’re just plain ANGRY! The absolute HORROR of it all!” Such a grandiose display of emotions will show your kid that you understand precisely what he’s been trying to tell you for the past 15 minutes. Tantrum over.
Let’s Make A Deal: Move over, Houdini. There’s a new escape artist in town, and her most perilous breakouts typically ensue during the apex of her most explosive temper tantrums. Having mastered the art of shimmying free of her stroller’s shoulder straps, my 2-year-old doll-faced fugitive will attempt to kamikaze-dive out of a moving stroller when her demands for my cell phone prove unsuccessful. Because her safety is my foremost priority, in these unique situations I often resort to bargaining with the twenty-pound terrorist to prevent her from swan-diving from her stroller onto Second Avenue. I confess to promising her everything but ten million dollars and a getaway helicopter so long as she remains safely seated in her stroller. I am not at all above bribery and let’s be honest – parenting toddlers is fundamentally an amateur form of hostage negotiation.
Bait & Switch: As most parents can attest, there is a very brief window of time at the onset of agitation where steps can be taken to prevent escalation into a temper tantrum of epic proportions. But all too often we miss these tell-tale signs and instead find ourselves face-to-face with a bona fide demonic possession. Fear not – the same tactics we use to prevent a temper tantrum can also be helpful for abolishing them. At any given time, my diaper bag contains an arsenal of small toys and snacks that would pacify even the most discerning toddler. Some could crudely interpret the desperate introduction of novel objects as inadvertently rewarding bad behavior – to which I would respond – nobody likes your unsolicited advice anyways… haters. If a bag of cheddar bunnies distracts my child from a rage-fuelled burst while forcibly putting on winter jacket in below freezing temperatures, how can this be a bad thing?
Surrender: Admit defeat and give him/her your phone.
One of the most valuable pearls of wisdom I’ve acquired along this journey is that we must seek out our own moments of gratification, and that sometimes this can be found in the most unexpected places. For instance, one of my guiltiest pleasures is stumbling upon other toddlers in my neighborhood whose unabashed lack of impulse control rivals that of my own toddlers. In these moments I savor the confirmation that there are others who share my children’s penchant for gratuitous tears, inconceivable contortions and fondness for writhing on the floor. If you see me discreetly chuckling as I pass by, please rest assured – I’m laughing with you, not at you.
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